I am a woman...

I am a woman who is always criticized where I wear short clothes or cover up. Also to add up with men staring with no shame, and then they blame my way of dressing.

Freedom was never given to me, I always have to fight for it because I am not a man who is given a responsibility easily. I have to do a lot of convincing for the person giving, thinks a lot before for I am a woman.

If I drive and have an accident, people say, ''women shouldn't drive, this is what happens,'' but it isn't the case when a man does so.

To add up for a colored woman as me, I get remarks from Aunties and men like, ''why so unfair?'' or ''you should use fair & lovely, beta!'' I'm always put down for my skin color because being fair is the ultimate goal, but they fail to realize that being a woman doesn't mean being beautiful for the world or displaying herself as a showcase for being a woman is much more than that.

If I am fat, I am told to lose weight and if I am thin, I am told to gain weight. Never satisfied, eh? It's my body that they are always after and nobody says anything against it.

If I am a prostitute, I am being rejected but who promotes my business? Well, men, but they act like they are innocent beings in the daylight, and if I am a quiet, decent woman, I do not know how to have fun and should learn to be social enough and be the woman they want.

I have friends of the opposite gender, I am being judged, for a woman doesn't have the right but for a man, it's all right for it's a usual thing. I do not owe a man anything but I have been told since I was a girl that I should learn to do the household chores and to cook, because how else will I serve my husband? But why am I not told to do it for myself first then my future partner?

Being a woman, I saw how women are divided into class system. The low class is not being looked upto, the middle class is being accepted slowly and the high class or what we call ''posh'' are admired because they wave the money on the faces of others.

I believe in feminism because if it didn't exist, girls would still be sold, women raped and no action taken against honor killings in the name of izzat, and every sort of discriminated that I can still see.

After all I am a woman who speaks, and they call me outspoken but if I do not do so, men would still control us and we would have no identity.

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